We all have things we like and dislike. This is just part of our individual and unique personality characteristics, which all go into making us who we are. But we all have pet peeves; those things that are like “nails on a chalkboard” to us.
Here are a few on my list:
Disorganization or clutter – Yes, I’m a neat freak. And, yes, I understand that not everyone is, nor is it fair to expect everyone to be. However, disorganization or clutter of any kind drives me insane. If I see a messy house, piles cluttered in corners, or trash all over a backyard, I try to respect that, that person is just messy, but I’m really internally fighting a panic attack.
No, my house isn’t always perfectly clean, but I wouldn’t call it “disorganized” either; “lived in” is probably much better description. I do work hard to keep it clean and neat, but that’s mainly for the top two reasons: 1) I just want to be able to find things when I’m looking for them, and 2) I just feel better about life in a clean house.
This also goes for re-cleaning what I just cleaned…
Judgment – I absolutely can’t stand when people judge others. Whenever someone judges another for being “bitchy” or “in a bad mood”, it’s like really? Maybe that person is stressed, or maybe they are dealing with something you can’t understand, maybe they aren’t feeling well, or maybe they are just having a bad day. We are ALL entitled to have bad days. The truth is, you never really know someone until you take the time to get to know him or her. If we spend too much time judging others, then we have no time to really love them…
For me personally? Judging is probably one of the worst things you can do to me. If you judge me for making a life choice or decision or judge me about how I feel about something, then this feels like betrayal to me. Betrayal then leads to distrust. Trust is earned. And once it’s gone, it’s gone.
Lying and cheating – Professional relationships, personal relationships or marriages: there’s NO need for lying or cheating. This also goes for omissions and empty promises. If you aren’t strong enough to own up to your mistakes, face your problems, or stand by your word, then you should probably rethink your relationships.
Yes, hurting someone can happen accidentally, but covering a problem up with a lie or simply cheating just makes the problem worse, and even damages relationships. And lying or cheating to intentionally hurt someone? That’s a really good way to lose a really good person…
Being talked down to – Don’t ever talk to me or treat me like I’m stupid. Ever.
When you are talking to someone and they clearly aren’t listening to you– OR they are on their phone… – When someone is talking, you listen. It’s that simple. This is like common courtesy 101. Of course, we all have busy lives and we all can’t function without Smartphones today. I run more than one business, and I rely on my phone a lot. I get it. But whatever is blowing up on your phone can probably wait two minutes to have a face-to-face conversation. Don’t underestimate the importance of eye contact.
Social Media – Yes, I’m in digital marketing, so social media plays a huge part of my clients’ marketing strategies. Therefore, if you see me on Facebook during the day, I’m actually working. Yes, I post a lot of my own blogs on Facebook, Twitter, and LinkedIn, but again, there is professional intent here. I no longer post super intimate or personal details about myself or my relationships. I don’t believe in it, and I refuse to let social media run my life. It’s actually quite sickening to learn that people spend an average of 3 hours a day on social media. That time can easily be used more productively elsewhere.
Throwing away food – I hate to pull the “there are starving countries” card on this one, but it’s true. This country throws away food like it’s our job, yet there are other countries and even animals and children who don’t have food to eat at all. The next time I need to throw away food, I should just go to the bank, take out money, and just throw it in the trash, because it’s basically the same thing.