I remember being in high school and being asked where I wanted to be at age 25.
25. That seemed like a lifetime away…
At the time, I remember thinking: “I’ll probably have a good job, a house, and be happily married with a family.”
Well, 25 came and went, and NONE of those things happened.
Honestly, asking a 17 or 18 year-old kid these questions is almost unfair. Even though I have been working since I was 14 years old, becoming an adult and working for a living is a whole different ball game that no one can really prepare you for…
30 is the New 20…
They say 30 is the new 20, and it’s true. In your 20s, you’re still trying to finish school, get established, find yourself and figure out life.
As I write this in my early 30s, I can say that I’m enjoying my 30s WAY more than my 20s. And it’s only now that I have a clearer view of where I see myself in 10 years. And, I’m also much more realistic…
Over the Hill
But one thing is for certain: In LESS than 10 years, I’ll be 40…
And there is NOTHING funny about that…
By the time I am 41 (gasp!), I hope to be working for myself, continue to invest in and build my present ventures, get married, maybe have a son, and buy another house – preferably NOT in Massachusetts. Or anywhere in the Northeast for that matter…
If these seem like big dreams and goals, they are, and they are closer than you might think. But regardless of what I want and what I don’t want, the future no longer scares me.
I’ve Got Me for Life…
I’ve had rough periods in my life: some were normal, some I wouldn’t wish on anyone… But who hasn’t faced their own challenges and demons, right? But I’m proud to say that I got myself through them. At the end of the day, all I have is me.
The challenges for what they are don’t matter, but how you get yourself through them does. Our challenges shape us and make us who we are because it’s through our experiences that give us strength, which leads to self-discovery, respect, and confidence.
By believing in yourself, you can do anything.
I’ve also learned that you have to love yourself because you are all that you’ve got. You shouldn’t compare yourself to anyone else, and you shouldn’t want to be anyone else. You’ve got you for life, so you better learn to love you for YOU. And, finally, only until you really learn to love yourself can you truly love another.
“I’m Not Old, Just Older…”
Now that I’m older, and I’ve been through ups and downs, and worked my way through my own challenges, and found myself, my future not only looks bright, but nothing really scares me anymore, and I truly believe that there is nothing that I can’t do (except solve quadratic equations…)
I no longer waste time worrying about the “what ifs” or the future. What ever happens will happen, and there are just some things in life that I have no control over. I’ve learned to cross bridges when I come to them, and just enjoy the ride.
So bring on the next 10 years, because I got this.
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